Topic - Weddings

Four of my older siblings are married, and another one is 'in the process'. With every one, there ends up being months of talking before hand about relationships and weddings.

    With all the wedding talk around the house, it makes a person do some serious thinking about relationships. And since this is March, and I usually try to share some personal things in my birthday month to let everyone get to know me a bit better, I've decided to share a list with you.
    I hesitate to share it, since I change it almost every year, and this is by no means a complete list of questions, but this is my personal list of questions to ask a guy before getting engaged. Some of them are more 'get-to-know-you' type questions, while others are MUST haves, like salvation testimony.

  Now some people look at this list and are like . . ."Wow! You won't marry a guy if he doesn't agree with you on ALL this stuff?" And that is NOT what this list is about. Some of these things are convictions that are MUST haves, but some of them are preferences. When considering a marriage partner, preferences are just that, preferences, and can be changed, but convictions, are on a whole different level.

  When it boils down to it, there are really only five things I would HAVE to know about a guy. 1. Is he a Christian. 2. Does he have good character. 3. Does he have sound doctrine. 4. Do our personalities match. i.e. Could we get a long. (Some people's personalities just don't mix with others.) and 5. Do his basic music, version, etc. convictions work with mine?
  That being said, here is my BIG list. (And keep in mind, these are NOT just questions for a guy! We girls should have answers to these as well.)


1. When did you get saved? Your Salvation testimony?

2. Do you attend church regularly? What about midweek services? What are your plans for after you’re married? Will you take your family consistently?


3. What are you reading in your devotions? How often do you do devotions?


4. What Bible version do you use? Why do you use it and not another one?

5. What kinds of music do you like to listen to? Rock, Country, Classical, etc.? Why or why not?

6. What are your beliefs on eternal security?

7. Are you a Calvinist? Armenian? Other?

8. Have you been baptized? When? Why?


9. What ministries are you currently involved with?

10. What do you feel God’s calling is for your life?

11. What jobs do you picture yourself pursuing? Career dreams?


12. What are your passions in life? (Hobbies, evangelism, cars, hunting, preaching, body building, etc.)


13. What are your beliefs on alcohol, or wine? Would you want any alcoholic beverages in your home?

14. Have you ever done drugs? Smoked?

15. How do you feel about TV’s in a home?

16. Are you on Facebook, Twitter, or any social networks or chat rooms? Why or Why not?

17. What are your beliefs on having kids? Abortion? Birth control?


18. Do you want to homeschool your children?

19. What are your beliefs on women working?


20. Using Biblical principles to back you up, how do you believe a godly woman should dress? Pants? Skirts?

22. What do you believe the wife’s role in the home should be?

23. In your mind, what do you see a relationship with her looking like? Timeline?

24. Have you ever had a serious girl-friend before?

26. Are you in debt? Why or why not? Would you go in debt over a house?

27. Do you tithe regularly?

28. What political party do you vote with? Did you vote in the last election? Why or why not?


29. How is your relationship with your parents?

30. How is your relationship with your siblings?


31. In the last ten years, have you rebelled against your parents in any area? If so what area?

32. Do you think a couple should hold hands or share other special touches before the wedding?

33. How’s your prayer life?


34. Do you have a prayer list?

35. Do you do much Bible memorization?


36. What is one of your biggest spiritual struggles?

37. Do you believe in Creation?


38. What things make you mad?

39. Do you play any video or computer games? If so how often?


40. What do you do in your free time?

41. Do you use Gospel tracts much? If so which ones are your favorites? Which ones don’t you like?


42. When’s the last time you shared the gospel with someone in person?

43. How much time do you spend on the computer in an average day?


44. How do you feel about Christian’s dancing? Using Scripture, explain why you’re for or against it?

45. When someone points something out in your life that they’re concerned about, what is your response?


46. What makes you think that she is the right one?

47. How much have you prayed about her? And how many other people do you have praying for you?


48. How do you see her helping your ministry grow?

49. What are your beliefs on celebrating Christmas or other holidays?


50. Are you holding any bitterness or grudges towards anyone? If so, explain.


52. Are you ready to be the leader of a home? To love a wife, to raise a family, to be a wise leader, and most importantly, to take care of their spiritual needs?

53. Have you ever been fired from a job? If so why?


54. Do you know what your spiritual gift is? If so what is it?

55. What is your love language?

56. If things were to work out with her, do you have your parents, and pastor’s approval?

57. Do you use any slang or swear words?

58. Have you ever had to stand alone on an issue that was important to you?

59. What are your beliefs on disciplining children?

60. Do you take responsibility for your mistakes, or do you run from your problems?

61. What are your strongest character traits?

62. What character traits do you struggle with the most?

63. What are your beliefs on divorce?

64. What are your favorite movies? What movie standards do you have?

65. When people describe you, do they refer to you as a hard worker?

66. Do you respect your authority’s decision?

68. Are you morally pure?

69. Have you ever had an issue with pornography? How did you deal with it? / How are you dealing with it? What actions are you taking to protect yourself?

70. Do you speed?

71. Do you ever use playing cards? Why or why not?

72. How do you feel about gambling?

73. Have you ever been in trouble with the law? In jail?

74. Are you a picky eater? What don’t you like? Do you have food allergies?

76. Are you into sports? Cars?

77. Do you carry concealed?

78. Do you want a house pet?

79. Do you read much? What kind of books do you like?

80. How do you feel about your wife having a home business?

81. What levels of education have you had?

82. Who are your best friends? Who influences you the most?

83. Who are some of your favorite preachers?

84. Are you pre-trib, post-trib, or mid-trib? Other?

85. Do you support Israel?

86. How do you feel about tattoos? Body piercings? Dangling earrings? Multiple earrings? Make-up?

87. How do you feel about haircuts? Long hair? Short hair? For guys or girls?

88. Do you go to the movies? How do you feel about theaters?

89. Are you a spender or a saver? Are you described as frugal?

91. What have you learned from past relationships?

92. What is your greatest fear about marriage?

93. What baggage would you be bringing into the relationship?

94. What are your texting habits?

95. What kind of medical history have you had?


How is this going to help you get to know me better? Well, over the next couple of weeks, I'm going to take a few of the points and share with you why I believe what I believe. I'm not sure yet which points I'm going to expound on, so if you read one of the questions and want to know what I think about it, mention it in the comments, and maybe I'll share on it.

And I had to add this picture from one of my brother's weddings. One of my favorite wedding pictures that I've been in!